Thursday, January 17, 2013

She and Him

Before Isabel was born, I didn't give too much thought to how Elijah would feel about her.  We didn't read a million books about babies (just this one, over and over and over), and I am pretty sure that Elijah was basically completely taken by surprise on the day that he came home from Sam's to find her living in his house.  Or maybe he just thought she was visiting, then over time realized that she is here to stay.  Two-year-old minds can be hard to read.

One thing that I am sure of, however, is the way that Elijah feels about Isabel, which is best described as adoring enthusiasm.  He brings her toys, he gives her kisses, and yesterday he painstakingly moved his "drum set", one piece at a time, over by her chair so he could sing to her.

I have no idea why he is so overjoyed by her.  Maybe it is the closeness in age.  Unlike, perhaps, a four-year-old, Elijah does not seem to feel that he was unseated from his privileged position by her arrival.  If there is something we are doing right, I wish I knew so that I could make sure to keep doing it, and replicate it again the next time around.

  I realized the other day how protective I am of their relationship when I decided that we should no longer read Juilius, Baby of the World by Kevin Henkes, which I had gotten from the library.  I am a big fan of Henkes, especially Owen and Wemberly Worried, but reading Elijah a book where the main character spends the first 7/8ths of the story calling her brother ugly seemed unwise. 

Just like one of his shirts states, Elijah is the best big brother in the history of the universe, at least to me.  Sure, he overwhelms her with his love (and his drumming) occasionally, but his intentions are pure goodness.  So, more experienced parents out there...what can I do to keep it this way?

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